Where Is Your Energy Going?

What if I told you that where you place your attention is where your life is being created?

I have been noticing something lately—how much of our day disappears into our phones. Into the scroll. Into the resistance and reaction in the comments section of someone's post. And I'm not here to tell you that social media is bad or that you need to delete all your apps. What I am curious about is: What is it creating in your life?

What began as a place for connecting with others and sharing meaningful moments has transformed into a feed dominated by items for purchase, news and "news", and meme reposts without conversation.

Here's what I've observed, both in my own life and in working with others: social media has a way of consuming our energy without us realizing it. We think we're just "checking in" for a minute, and suddenly an hour has passed and we have checked out. We think we're staying informed or connected, but what if we're actually solidifying our points of view? What if we're feeding the very perspectives that keep us stuck, that keep us separate from the people sitting right next to us?

I have observed individuals scrolling through their feeds while someone is speaking to them. We are physically present but lack energetic presence. Our energy—the life force that could foster connection, intimacy, and joy—is being diverted from forming meaningful connections.

What Are You Spending Your Day Doing?

Take a moment and ask yourself: What am I actually spending most of my day doing? Not what you think you're doing or what you wish you were doing, but what is actually happening with your time and attention?

Because that is where your energy is going. And your energy is powerful. It is the creative force of your life. It is this essence that creates our collective reality.

If you spend your day scrolling, your energy is going into consumption. If you spend your day worrying about what others think, your energy is going into their opinions. If you spend your day reacting to news and outrage, your energy is going into conflict.

What would it be like to become aware of this? Not from a place of judgment, but from genuine curiosity. What if you could witness where your energy flows throughout the day and then choose differently?

The Invitation

So here's what I'm inviting you to consider: What if you reclaimed that energy?

What if we've been mistaking consumption for connection? We scroll through someone's curated moments and believe we're staying close. We react with an emoji and think we've shown up. But here's what I've noticed: this kind of engagement actually creates distance. It gives us the illusion of connection while keeping us disengaged from real intimacy.

We miss the texture of someone's voice, the hesitation before they share something vulnerable, the way their eyes light up when they're excited. We get the highlight reel but lose the human being. And in that trade, we lose something of ourselves too—the capacity to be truly present, to listen deeply, to be moved by another person's actual experience rather than their posted version of it.

Real presence requires something from us. It asks us to be willing to set the phone aside and make eye contact. To ask a question and genuinely listen to the response. To be there—completely, energetically engaged—even when it's uncomfortable or inconvenient.

What if you set an intention for how you desire your life to be, rather than being at the effect of the algorithm? When you do notice yourself going into resistance and reaction when you look at social media, begin to ask what would I like my life to be like and begin to put your energy on those things that create that. If it brings about judgment, start examining where you are being judgmental and imagine how the world would be in an environment of non-judgment and harmonious interactions. Consider asking yourself each morning, "What do I choose to create today?" and then align your energy with that intention.

This isn't about perfection. It isn't about never using social media or being "zen" all the time. It's about awareness. It's about recognizing that you are not a passive recipient of whatever comes your way. You are the one directing the energy. You are the one creating your experience.

The Power of Intention

When we become aware of where our energy is going, we can begin to shift it. We can set intentions. We can ask ourselves: What do I actually desire to create in my relationships? In my life? In this moment?

Maybe it's more connection. Maybe it's more peace. Maybe it's more presence with the people you love. Maybe it's reclaiming the parts of yourself that got lost in the scroll.

Whatever it is, it starts with noticing. It starts with the question: Where is my energy going right now? And then: Is this where I want it to go?

Your energy is not something to waste or to give away unconsciously. It is the most powerful tool you have. What would it create to use it intentionally? What would open up if you placed it where it truly matters?

I'm not saying I have this all figured out. I'm simply inviting you to explore this with me. To question. To notice. To choose.

Because the moment we become aware is the moment everything can change.